Three Workplace Gossip Tips to Make YOU a Star

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You’ve made it through the second interview, negotiated for a mediocre salary and benefits package, and sighed with ennui as you pondered your 2037 early retirement date, the calculation of which places you at 75 years strong.

Escorted to your cubicle by your boss, who departed from you with raised eyebrows and the command, “Let’s have a productive day,” you sit in a squeaking chair with thin gluteal padding, turn on your computer, set up a photo of your girlfriend, a photo of her three year old son, and one of your seven year old daughter from your previous marriage, which you hurry from to avoid thinking about Janet, the alimony and child support payments that force you to take a night job as a telemarketer.

At last you log in.

But wait….

From across the cubicle, a coworker chirps to the defamation of the character of Lanie. Who the hell is Lanie?

Your workplace politics antennae throb upward.

Bowing your head, you double click the Outlook icon.

And now the woman hangs up with a gentle clop of the receiver. Then the shit hits the fan.

This woman appears suddenly in your cubicle entry.

She breaches the threshold, overruns you with questions, then suddenly imposes information about Lanie.

Your resistance fails…. You reach for coffee….

Her swooping eyes halt your exertions.

Writhing as an autumn leaf in a whirlpool, you haven’t met Lanie but agree that she’s a chippy – oh, yes, that dirty bitch – on account of the smirk she gave to Deborah, the woman chattering in your cubicle, who has also insinuated that your refusal to join her freelance reputational assassination firm will result in the trashing of your own, leverage to which you succumb immediately.

“O God,” you cry as the swishing of her panty hose fades, “is there any hope?”

Workplace Gossip Is Life, Says New Research

Fear not, says Charleston Brothers, a polling firm in Charlotte, North Carolina. Gossip is a fact of life.

Our research indicates that, contrary to conventional workplace wisdom, many top managers refuse to curtail gossip. Instead of fighting their employee’s natural tendencies, they redirect the river toward a more benevolent harbor. It’s all about redirecting employee informational exchanges.

Charleston Brothers

Charleston Brothers offers several recommendations.

First, all gossip should be true. 

Says co-founder Les Charleston, “There’s nothing worse than becoming the downwind stench of the workplace. Untrue gossip tends to harm. True gossip allows those gossiped about to learn the truth about themselves, albeit indirectly.”

Let’s consider this scenario. If Worker X is indeed a jackass, as verified by ad-hoc straw polls conducted by self-appointed workplace gossip wonks, there is no reason to withhold this commentary from your fellow employees.

Second, be discreet. 

Charleston Brothers research shows that gossip, even if true, is likely to produce unpleasant scenes if the one gossiped about overhears the gossip.

“Every precaution should be taken,” says Charleston Brothers, “to discuss the employee when said employee is out of earshot.”

What if the one being discussed appears during the discussion?

“Sudden topic changes are suspicious,” says researcher Boyd Charleston, “and carry with them the threat of detection. Effectual gossip demands the perfection of conversational segues. Learn to pivot mid-sentence to allow for a seamless transition away from the discussion.”

Third, smile all the while. 

Charleston Brothers reports that smiling at the object of gossip is statistically the best means of winning trust, discouraging suspicion, and leaving the one gossiped about unaware of the situation.

Says Les Charleston, “Just remember what Walt Disney, one of the great gossips of the twentieth century, taught us:

There is just one moon
and a golden sun,
and a smile means friendship
to everyone.

Good Vibes: Astounding Way To Lead With Emotional Intelligence In The Workplace

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Dishing the Dirt on Emotional Intelligence

Guys, Josh here with Greatest Human In The Universe, dishing the lowdown on how to lead with emotional intelligence.

I can’t count how many times people ask me about this topic. And I can’t say that I blame them.

Emotional intelligence is one of those hot button issues that people love to talk about and feel that they need to understand.

But if you ask them to define it, let alone practice it, they might not be sure just how to do so.

That goes double for the workplace.

Lead With Emotional Intelligence In The Workplace

In today’s workaday world, let’s remember that feelings are far more important than facts. Actually, contrary to talkalots like Ben Shapiro, while facts might not care about your feelings, facts are in fact mostly irrelevant in the 21st century.

>>> Fact: The world we live in isn’t dictated or governed by facts, but feelings and emotions.

What luck for employees that today’s major corporate executives are emotionally in touch with their employees.

A survey conducted by our bespoke information firm, Buford Schuck Research Associates, concluded that 97% of Fortune 500 executives have implicit or inherent knowledge of employee feelings.

Buford Schuck estimates, however, that just 25 years ago, that number was down to 3%.

And that’s not all. Buford Schuck also notes that employers across the country are beginning to see that employees don’t just want to be valued, they want their leaders to feel their pain.

A Middle Manager Who Chose To Lead With Emotional Intelligence

The best example of leading with emotional intelligence might come from 55 year old Milton Sugarheim, of Sarasota Technics, a $13.7 billion venture founded on the premise of enhanced blue polymers, most often used in the quantum accumulators of teleportation technology.

But what you need to know about Sugarheim has nothing to do with blue polymers and everything to do with vibrations….

Pour Some Sugar On Sugarheim

One of the top three middle managers at Sarasota Technics, Sugarheim began his journey to lead with emotional intelligence by doing something that most managers and executives would chortle at: he lay down on the floor.

“It was a random idea,” Sugarheim says. “I was watching Nova’s Decoding the Universe: Quantum, and I started thinking about vibrations. And I thought, Gee, I wonder what kind of vibrations are coming through the floor. That’s when I lay down in my office and the magic started to happen.”

Beginning each day on the floor helps Sugarheim “get in touch with the vibrations” of his employees.

“The floor, is the optimal location for vibration accumulation,” says Sugarheim. “It’s the part of the building that the employees have the most contact with throughout the day. Whether directly or indirectly, they are in contact with it.”

Yet the more Sugarheim persisted in this floor feeling exercise, the more he grew dissatisfied with the vibrations he was experiencing.

He came to see that these vibrations were blunted, as he called it. And after many days of meditating on this shortcoming, he finally discovered why.

“If you want to lead with emotional intelligence, you’ve got to get in touch.” — Milton Sugarheim

“I was lying on the floor as per usual in the A.M.,” said Sugarheim, “and suddenly felt intense vibrations, vibrations that went way beyond what I had experienced until then. This was new and exciting, sort of like the first time you use anal beads. Anyways, I leapt up, and followed the vibrations to a cubicle, and the employee there had removed her shoes. I almost asked her why she had taken off her shoes, but the vibrations had already told me. ‘You have a sore toe, don’t you,’ I said. She began to weep and said, ‘That’s so sensitive of you, I haven’t told anyone, how did you know?'”

Sugarheim Bares His Soles With Technique Aplenty

Sugarheim was so moved by this experience that he implemented a no-shoe policy in the office.

The next morning, he recalled that his floor ritual was now “charged with a billion megawatts surging through my hemispheres. I sensed everybody and every particle. It was like all of my employees had penetrated my body.”

Sugarheim Gives The Palm

Sugarheim experimented with other techniques, such as “giving them the palm.”

In this technique, Sugarheim stands in the corner of the office so that he can see all the cubicles at once.

He then holds out his palms and closes his eyes. He waits a few moments, then feels his way through the office with his feet using the sanchin dachi stance. With every exhale, breathing out “Let hearts be open”, he seeks what he calls “trouble spots”.

Speaking of Trouble

Trouble spots are those employees whose vibratory patterns seem to Sugarheim to be hostile or vibratorily negative.

Every company has them on a daily basis, but few executives and managers seem to understand them, let alone seek them out.

But Sugarheim represents the vanguard of a new era, one whose primary goal is to lead with emotional intelligence.

For once he locates these trouble spots, he makes the employee his project for the day.

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Your Company Might Not Lead With Emotional Intelligence, But You Can

It was months ago now, but a particularly explosive row with his supervisor led Sugarheim to give up managing the Sarasota Technics way, as well as the standard projects he was given by the corporation.

“I felt that the people above me were morons,” he says. “They had no conception of leadership. They certainly weren’t getting anything out of me, much less my employees. I wanted to manage in a way that I knew would work for everybody.”

Sugarheim felt that it was of greater importance to double down on the vibrations and the feelings within the office, and that by doing so he would increase the efficiency and productivity of the office greatly.

Through numerous green flag encounters with employees, he discovered that his hunch was right. This wasn’t just important, it was crucial to their success.

“Project completion at a high level assumes vibratory perception at a high level.”

— Milton Sugarheim

Sugarheim’s ‘lead with emotional intelligence’ brand of counseling involves no questions, statements, or heart-to-heart sharing

Sugarheim connects directly with the vibrations of his employees through vibratory channeling so that he can experience their feelings with them in real time.

“This is best done through physical contact,” said Milton. “But there’s a serious risk of sexual harassment claims. I got bit by that bug several times before, so I’m cautious. The workaround is red velvet cloth. It channels the vibrations just about on par with touching palms, if not better.”

With his palms and his employee’s palms pressed onto the velvet, Sugarheim receives the vibrations and responds with his own.

There’s a serious risk of sexual harassment claims. I got bit by that bug several times before, so I’m cautious.

— Milton Sugarheim, Sarasota Technics

“The employee’s troubles are whisked away,” he says, “and the employee leaves rejuvenated, energized, happier, healthier, more whole, ready to inspire and be inspired.”

Sugarheim believes that this kind of feeling-empathy helps him lead with emotional intelligence.

He says that it is both responsible and post-human resources, by which he means that the kind of bellyaching and grieving performed by employees in Human Resources offices across the country could become a thing of the past, if executives and middle managers just took the time to lead with emotional intelligence.

“This means being vulnerable, being in touch, and baring your soles,” says Sugarheim.

And that, Sugarheim thinks, is the kind of revolutionary change that will represent the New Workplace.

Goodbye Lean Six Sigma. Hello Sensation.

Learn To Be Honest About Your Apathy

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Learn To Be Honest About Your Apathy

Let’s face it: there are plenty things you don’t give a shit about. Consider the following examples.

  • Your coworker’s dead dog.
  • Your friend’s flat tire.
  • Your relative travelling to Spain.

Your problem is that you pretend that you care.

And that, my friends, is a lie…. Granted it’s a simple lie, one we may call “white,” but a lie nevertheless. Your tendencies to lie enslave you to the lies and stymie your rise to the top. You waste a lot of energy mustering the energy to care or pretend to care.
Laura Vanderkam in blue dress

If you’re going to float to the top, learn to admit your apathy, and take some advice from life expert Laura Vanderkam.

Instead of saying, ‘I don’t have time,’ try saying ‘it’s not a priority’ and see how that feels.
Laura Vanderkam
Life Expert

Notice Ms. Vanderkam’s triple-threatedness.

First, she is aware of what she wants. Second, she externalizes that want. Third, she speaks her want with boldness.

With Ms. Vanderkam’s insights in mind, let’s revisit some of the scenarios I’ve already presented, asking ourselves, “What would Ms. Vanderkam say?”

Your coworker’s dead dog. In your more deceptive moments, you would feign concern. But when that urge to dissemble rises in your heart and rushes up your throat like vomit, swallow it down, and remember what Ms. Vanderkam would say:

“I’m sorry, it’s not a priority.”

Sure, Ms. Vanderkam’s coworker might think she’s a bitch. Does Ms. Vanderkam care? Well, I don’t know…but how does it feel?

 

Your friend’s flat tire. As humans we may have a natural inclination to care about the problems of others. But sometimes our natural inclination is to chain-whip.

So when your friend lurches into the story of the flat tire, spare yourself the prison sentence and ask, “What would Ms. Vanderkam say?”

Well, I don’t know, but she might say, “It’s not a priority.”

How does that feel?

Relative travelling to Spain. You used to pretend to be interested in family reports. Now they will be met by a wall of apathy. Forgo rudeness and stop mustering false excitement. Then consider the facts:

  1. You still hold a grudge against the Spanish Armada.
  2. You prefer Portugal.
  3. Bullfighting is murder.

Now ask yourself, “What would Ms. Vanderkam say?”

She might just say, “It’s not a priority.”

And how does that feel?

You can see how easy this is, how it cuts away the dead weight and frees you to be interested in what matters most: your life.

So avoid interactions you loathe, the heartbreak you despise, the stories that bore. And remember Ms. Vanderkam’s mantra: “It’s not a priority.”

You’re damn right.

How does that feel?

I’m Josh Litton, Keep Floating To The Top.